There are some that sit on the ground and seem to meditate.
Often a finger or hand can be seen tracing the name on the stone.
You will see some are replacing flowers in a vase.
There are those are gardening the flowers they planted before Memorial day.
Some are their to observe the birthday of their departed loved one.
Major holidays are often observed with a wreath or a fitting decoration being placed.
Tiny rocks are on top of the tomb stone or the base of the tomb stone to mark the visitation. People will also leave a penny to commemorate the visit.
Some will share a Beer and pour out one over the grave or leave an unopened can or bottle at the grave
Often a trinket or ceramic animal is on a child’s grave.
Why do we do these little things for someone who is gone? We are all looking for healing. What we are “doing for” our departed loved one is for our healing. When we lose someone we find ourselves in pain. The pain never completely goes away but it subsides and we are better able to deal with it over time. Many things we do at the final resting place of our loved one are all a part of the path of healing that we need to walk down. We hurt because we love. What we love and loose we grieve for. It is natural. Grieving is a part of loving.
What to Consider
So what should you consider when purchasing a memorial? The main thing to consider is what will honor the memory of your loved one. When pre-purchasing your own memorial it should reflect your life. It should speak of things that tell your story, or a message you want to tell the world. What ever your situation a grave stone is a tool for healing, let it work for you.
We can help you pick a memorial that is perfect for you. Contact us today!